Stopping the Chase
Feeling some type of way?
When a person decides to seek the support of therapy, generally it’s because they aren’t happy with the way they are feeling. So when the cliché is asked, “how are you feeling,” the new answer now is “I’m feeling some type of way.” Some type of way is used as an adjective phrase to sum up how that person is currently feeling about relationships, depression, anxiety, stress, jobs, career, family or any other areas of life that creates external situations deemed to be difficult to manage alone. Often times it’s not the uncomfortable situation but how the person feels about the situation that matters most. Basically, if you’re feeling good about something, then you probably wouldn’t seek emotional help with it. But, if you are feeling “some type of way” then you need to contact me so I can help you name decide how you feel, explore and name those feelings and learn alternative ways to manage the uncomfortable feelings affecting your quality of life.
Every situation in our lives activates some sort of emotional response within us and many times those emotions go unacknowledged on a conscious level. Maybe our partner says something to us that makes us want to lash out and yell at them, or storm out of the room, or make you shut down, or cry. We act out the reaction, but without acknowledgment of the root cause of such reaction. How did this make you feel? Did your partner’s comment make you feel ashamed? Did you feel attacked? Did the comment make you feel inferior? Did it make you feel vulnerable? No, really. How did this make you feel? And some “type of way” is actually not a feeling so you no longer have my permission to use that as your short answer for expressing your feelings.
This little light of mine.
If you are from the south you have definitely heard the song, “This little light of mine.” This lil light of mine, I’m gonna let it shine. This little light of mine, I’m going to let it shine. Sometimes as moms, sisters, daughters, wives, friends, bosses, co-workers, whatever hats you have to wear….we get lost. We tend to get so busy helping others with their “light” that our light becomes dull, start to flicker out, starts to become dim or at times just needs to be revived…that light can get dim for so many different reasons. And often times we don’t even realize our light is no longer shining bright until one morning you realize the light that has been guiding your spirit is no longer flickering bright enough to help you navigate through your own life. I believe that most women already have what they need to learn to become more self-aware while learning the tools to revive that light, learning ways to maintain the light once it has been revived and learn ways to ensure no one has the power to dim that light again. I prefer a team approach to working with women to explore their personal values, desires, and goals, and to identify challenges, feelings, or situations that have hindered them from having the life they want with the brightest light they can carry.
Using evidence-based treatment.
I specialize in delivering evidence-based interventions to help navigate relationship problems, depression, anxiety, weight loss, PTSD and plateaus with personal development. I work mostly with women to manage cultural stress, performance anxiety, and relationship concerns. With your support I may use different evidence-based methods to address your specific needs with focus on helping you move closer to living the life you desire.